Ask Bostonist: To Curse or Not to Curse?

OK, this isn't the ordinary Ask Bostonist, where some kindhearted soul makes the flattering mistake of thinking Bostonist might be a useful resource. Instead, a reader e-mailed us privately to object to our periodic use of the "F" word. We responded (pleasantly) to her complaint, and she wrote back. Because we think the question of whether and when to curse is an interesting one (especially for us blogging hacks who aspire to some semblance of legitimacy), we thought we'd share the exchange (with the reader's permission, of course), and ask you, dear readers, what you think about the question:

Is there any particular reason you have to use the "F" word? Are you even aware of the meaning? For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge. Why is it we can't even read an article without it having a warning label that says, "Offensive and/or stupid verbiage included"?

- Dareen Cannizzaro

Bostonist responds:

We're sorry to hear we've offended you. We looked back through all our posts (of which there are now more than 1,200) and found only four uses of the "F" word (aside from occasions when we were quoting someone who actually said it). One of these instances employed the traditional meaning you refer to (to copulate; but note that the Oxford English Dictionary does not attribute the word's primary meaning to an acronym), two used the word as an adverbial amplifier (more or less synonymous with "very"), and one used it followed by "up" in an adjectival phrase meant to connote disorder or destruction.

We know that this word is offensive to some, but it does, for better or worse, add a measure of expressive weight that we couldn't achieve with any synonym. We remember being taught by our grandfather long ago that it was OK to curse every now and then, in the right context, but that if we did it too much, the words would lose all their power. You obviously feel that Bostonist isn't the right context, and maybe we could have avoided the word on all of the occasions when we used it. But we like the richness and variety of the English language, and especially the nuances of spoken English (that's why we sometimes write things like "um"). And this word is part of all that. We think that four posts out of 1,200 (.33 %) is a low enough incidence of profanity to satisfy our grandfather's sensible standard and the sensibilities of most or our readers.

Dareen responds:

I agree with much of what you say, but I sincerely and will always believe that, as the late, great, incredibly intelligent Tony Randall said, if you can't make your point without the use of profanity, leave your hat on so no one will see your best point.

I too appreciate the finer points of the English language, which is why I see it as completely unnecessary in any way to use offensive words. Period.

Although we're not promising a bowdlerized Bostonist in the future, we think Dareen has a compelling argument. Naturally, we also think we have a pretty good argument. Dear readers, what do you think?